When I was younger I had several really cool teachers who remained firmly as inspiration in throughout my life. Contradicting that, I had some really bad teachers and also some who were very unfriendly or imtimidating.
I particularly remember one really unfriendly teacher, a Modern Languages teacher, who in my first year I would talk to her about my German uncle and try and make bridges with her because in reality, I was a shy little lad who was quite intimidated by her. She would often talk for a few seconds before rushing off - often as though she hated talking to me so much she had to get out of there. There were times where I hoped I could cash in on those moments. For example, she was a cruel teacher in the sense if you didn't do well in a test she would make you stand up in front of the class and state why you failed - I mean that's bullying.
I was honestly scared beyond belief doing those tests. But as the teacher continued to make a fool out of me, I would often use that to make a silly joke and make the class laugh, much to the teacher's disappointment. You see, that teacher, being such a bully, was using the behavioural method of teaching - do well or face the consequences - and it wasn't actually working. I hated Languages and it was all down to her, had it not been for my lovely third year teacher, I would have never wanted to speak German again.
I vowed never to become like her as a teacher in my later life.
Now that I am a teacher I have noticed some similiarities between her and I. I had become the teacher I never wanted to become. Unfortunately I tried out being that cool teacher and I had a lot of pupils saying I was their favourite teacher, but then the worst thing happened. I had to really raise my voice in anger - and that little shy boy from 2003 now in 2019 can really raise his voice. I broke relationships I had worked hard to build with my classes, pupils went from saying I was their favourite teacher to saying how much they hate my classes. I do not care if they dislike me or whatever, I just do want them to learn.
So how do I go back from here? Restorative conversations with the class? Possibly. Be the fun teacher again? Possibly.